Derek Walcott: Love After Love – El amor después del amor

Happy Sunday everyone.

For the past few days, I’d been thinking quite a bit about poetry, and I wasn’t sure why.  Then, while watching my favorite show, Super Soul Sunday, Oprah quoted a few lines from the poem Love After Love by Derek Walcott. My curiosity led me to google it, of course. By the time I finished reading, my eyes were filled with tears. 

Over the past 11 years, I have been going through a spiritual awakening. This poem summed up beautifully what I have not been able to express. I hope you enjoy it.

Love After Love

The time will come 
when, with elation 
you will greet yourself arriving 
at your own door, in your own mirror 
and each will smile at the other’s welcome, 
and say, sit here. Eat. 
You will love again the stranger who was your self.
Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart 
to itself, to the stranger who has loved you 
all your life, whom you ignored 
for another, who knows you by heart. 
Take down the love letters from the bookshelf, 
the photographs, the desperate notes, 
peel your own image from the mirror. 
Sit. Feast on your life.  

Derek Walcott 


Feliz domingo a todos. 

Últimamente, he estado pensando mucho sobre la poesía. Y la verdad, no sabía por qué.  Estaba mirando mi programa favorito, Super Soul Sunday, cuando Oprah citó una líneas del poema, El amor después del amor, de Derek Walcott. Por supuesto, mi curiosidad me llevo a hacer una búsqueda en Google.  Cuando terminé de leerlo, mis ojos se llenaron de lágrimas. 

En los últimos 11 años, he estado atravesando por un despertar espiritual. Este poema resume bellamente lo que no he podido aún expresar. 

El amor después del amor 

El tiempo vendrá
en el que, con gran alegría,
te saludarás a ti mismo,
al tú que llega a tu puerta,
al que ves en tu espejo
y cada uno sonreirá a la bienvenida del otro,
y dirá, siéntate aquí. Come.
Seguirás amando al extraño que fuiste tú mismo.
Ofrece vino. Ofrece pan. Devuelve tu amor
a ti mismo, al extraño que te amó
toda tu vida, a quien no has conocido
para conocer a otro corazón
que te conoce de memoria.
Recoge las cartas del escritorio,
las fotografías, las desesperadas líneas,
despega tu imagen del espejo.
Siéntate. Celebra tu vida.

Derek Walcott


John O’Donohue Quote – Frase de John O’Donohue

“Una vez que el alma despierta, comienza la búsqueda y nunca se puede volver atrás. A partir de ese momento se enciende en ti un anhelo especial que no permitirá que te entretengas en las estepas de la autocomplacencia y la realización parcial. La eternidad te apremia. Eres reacio a permitir que un acomodo o la amenaza de un peligro te impida bregar para alcanzar la cima de la realización. ~John O’Donohue

“Once the soul awakens, the search begins and you can never go back. From then on, you are inflamed with a special longing that will never again let you linger in the lowlands of complacency and partial fulfillment.The eternal makes you urgent.You are loath to let compromise or the threat of danger hold you back from striving towards the summit of  fulfillment.” ~John O’Donohue


My Prewriting Ritual – Mi rito antes de escribir

My Prewriting Ritual 

I recently found out of the prewriting rituals of one great writer: Isabel Allende. She lights a candle before she begins to write to write (if she starts to write a new book, she’ll  start it on January 8) and when the candle turns off, she stops writing. 

This got me thinking about my own prewriting technique. My prewriting routine is simple, and I think it’s a great way to start the day!

  1. First, I meditate for 20 minutes.I find that I am more grounded and peaceful throughout my day.
  2. Then, I light a candle. I pray for  5 or ten minutes. Part of my prayer time, includes praying to Archangel Gabriel.

This is the prayer-

Archangel Gabriel, I ask for your presence as I write my book. Please open my creative channels so that I may be truly inspired. Help me open my mind so that U may give birth to unique ideas. And please, help me sustain the energy and motivation to follow through on this inspiration.

Do you have a ritual before you write? What is it? 



















Mi rito antes de escribir

Hace poco me enteré de los ritos que se hacen antes de escribir de la gran escritora: Isabel Allende. Enciende una vela antes de comenzar a escribir (si empieza a escribir un nuevo libro, lo hace el 8 de enero) y cuando la vela se apaga, para de escribir la escritura.

Esto me hizo pensar de mi rito antes de describir. Es simple y creo que es una gran manera de empezar el día. 

  1. Primero, medito 20 minutes. 
  2. Después, como Isabel Allende, también enciendo  una vela y rezo.  Una parte de mi tiempo de oración, incluye orar al Arcángel Gabriel.

Esta es la oración:

Arcángel Gabriel, te pido por tu presencia mientras escribo mi libro. Por favor, abre canales creativos para que  pueda estar inspirada . Ayúdame a abrir mi mente para que  pueda dar a luz a mis ideas. Y por favor, ayúdame a sostener la energía y la motivación para seguir adelante con esta inspiración.

¿Tienes un rito antes de escribir? ¿Qué es? 



Pope Francis Quote – Frase del Papa Francisco

Pope Francis Quote – Frase de el Papa Francisco

“No es necesario creer en Dios para ser una buena persona. En cierto modo, la noción tradicional de que Dios no está actualizado. Uno puede ser espiritual pero no religioso. No es necesario ir a la iglesia y dar limosna. Para muchos, la naturaleza puede ser una iglesia. Algunas de las mejores personas en la historia no creían en Dios, mientras que algunos de los peores actos fueron realizados en su nombre.” ~Papa Francisco

“It is not necessary to believe in God to be a good person. In a way, the traditional notion of God is outdated. One can be spiritual but not religious. It is no necessary to go to church and give money- for many, nature can be a church. Some of the best people in history did not believe in God, while some of the worst deeds were done in His name.” ~Pope Francis


Proof of Heaven Book Review – Reseña del Libro Proof of Heaven (Prueba del Cielo)

Proof of Heaven Book Review

In his book, Proof of Heaven: A Neuroscientist’s Journey into the Afterlife, Dr. Eben Alexander mysteriously contracts bacterial meningitis and slips into a coma. For seven days he layed lifeless with very little hope of coming out of it or much less living a healthy  life if he did come out of coma.

During these seven days,  Dr. Alexander had a spiritual life transforming event: a near death experience, or NDE.

A true scientist by nature, he was skeptical of near death experiences and anything that resembled such an experience. In the book he states, “I was the quintessential good-natured, albeit skeptical, doctor.” Before this experience, he’d listen to stories that his patients would tell him and was compassionate in his own way.

Throughout the book, he does his best to describe the magical realm that he calls The Core, or Heaven. In Proof of Heaven, he read other’s accounts of their NDEs and he understood each story that he read, but he described the difficulties these individuals had when it came to describing their accounts, “And yet, with each attempt that fell frustratingly short of its goal, each person straining at language and ideas to get this enormity across to the read.”

He himself struggled with his description of this quintessential dimension, yet he understood it as love.

There were moments of hope and despair for both his family and friends. Nevertheless, they stayed with him and  prayed for him as doctors desperately did all they could to fight of this aggressive infection. In fact, they never left his bedside and someone always held his hand.

Dr. Alexander is here to say that there is an Om, Spirit, God,  Creator, The Universe- whatever you wish to call this great, benevolent divine force, and that there is life after death.

This is another must read book! You can purchase Proof of Heaven at Amazon.

Are you considering reading this book? Have you read this book? What did you think?

Reseña del Libro Proof of Heaven  (La prueba del cielo)

En su libro,  Proof of Heaven: A Neuroscientist’s Journey into the Afterlife (La prueba del cielo: el viaje de un neurocirujano a la vida después de la muerte), el doctor Eben Alexander misteriosamente contrae meningitis bacteriana y cae en coma. Durante siete días su cuerpo estuvo sin vida, con poca esperanza de salir de ella y mucho menos vivir una vida saludable si saliera del coma.

Durante estos siete días, el doctor Alexander tiene un episodio transformante espiritual: experiencias cercanas a la muerte, o ECM. 

Como científico, él era un escéptico de las experiencias cercanas a la muerte o cualquier cosa que se asemejara.  En el libro dice, “Como doctor, yo era la quintaesencia del buen carácter, aunque escéptico.” Antes de su experiencia, él escuchaba a sus pacientes con compasión, pero a su manera.

A través del libro, él intenta describir este lugar mágico que nombra The Core (el cielo), o El Núcleo.  En Proof of Heaven, él lee acontecimientos de otros que tuvieron un ECM y entiende las dificultades que tuvieron al intentar de describir sus experiencias. El doctor Alexander dice, “Y, sin embargo, con cada intento que cayó frustrante por debajo de su objetivo, cada persona teniendo esa dificultad de lenguaje y de ideas para poder expresar la magnitud de todo a través de la lectura.”

Él mismo tuvo problemas con la descripción de esta dimensión quintaesencia, sin embargo lo captó como el amor. 

Había momentos de esperanza y de desesperación tanto para la familia como sus amigos. Sinembrago, se mantuvieron a su lado rezándole mientras los doctores hacían todo  para detener la propagación de esta infección.  De hecho, nunca se alejaron de él y siempre había alguien sosteniendo su mano.

El doctor Alexander simplemente nos quiere dejar saber que si hay un Om, Espíritu, Dios, El Creador, El Universo- lo que desean nombrar a este  gran fuerza divina benévola y que hay vida después de la muerte.

¡Proof of Heaven es un libro que todos tienen que leer! Se puede comprar en Amazon

¿Estás considerando leer este libro? ¿Lo has leído? ¿Qué piensas del libro?

A Return to Love – Healing After a Divorce

“I don’t know what it means to heal emotionally, but I am doing it.” This is a promise I made to myself. I would mend my broken heart. A second promise came right after. I would also not date while I was going through my divorce ordeal. And this why…

Divorce Statistics

When I was in a divorce support group, my counselor had told us (the members) that about 50% of first marriages end in divorce in the U.S. That percentage goes to about 68% in second marriages and it jumps to about 75% if you remarry for the third time. This got me thinking. Why is this happening?

One Possible Answer

The Beatles said it perfectly with their song, All You Need Is Love. While a divorce is an emotional death and the main circumstance surrounded it is the loss of love, then it follows that to become well we need to return to love.

Healing is a return to love.

I believe that the divorce statistics are on the higher end because people do not take the time to heal, and others find it quite difficult to forgive their partners. This was the most important step for me to begin to heal. The old adage is true- “a divorce can be messy”. Emotions are running high and thoughts of revenge cross your mind. I would know. It happened to me. Given these circumstances, it is perhaps why divorcees find comfort in the arms of another person (as I did before I was married) and this may also happen for various reasons.

Is this true healing?

Perhaps, for some it may be. For me, it was essential to “work” on myself. Who was Liz? I had lost myself in my marriage and I needed to reestablish my identity as a newly single person, and more importantly, to find myself.

At the very least, your world is turned upside down and what you once knew as “life” is no longer there.

From waking up with your husband every morning, to the morning goodbye kiss, to talking and texting throughout the day, to going to your favorite sushi restaurant, to the good night kiss. Therefore,a new relationship right after a separation could perhaps not be the best solution. In one of my counseling sessions, my counselor made it very clear to me. “Dating right after separation and into the divorce is like putting a band-aid on a very large physical wound,” she said.” “It just won’t do.”

Band-Aid Heart-1

In Confusion, You Find Clarity

I never understood the statement “In confusion, you find clarity.” That is, until the other day. In the midst of confusion, I felt empty and hopeless. All I could do was pray and ask God for help and guidance in my life.

Needless to say, I was a hot mess as a good friend of mine says.

Doing the emotional work and reflecting on this matter brought clarity into my life. As I look back, I began to understand why all this was happening to me and I was beginning to feel better.

The Last Word on Healing…

I liken the healing experience to the pruning of rose bushes. Just like we need to be “stripped” emotionally, mentally, and spiritually to get to healing, rosebushes need to be pruned for reasons like to maintain their shape and to give us new blooms. In a mysterious way, rosebushes heal too.

And remember, if you can heal physically, then you can heal emotionally too.

What are your experiences with healing? Have you healed from a divorce?

What’s the book about?


“What’s  the book about?” Of course, this is the follow-up question that I get asked when I tell others that I am writing a book.

The book that I am writing is a memoir that I started  back in May 2010. I went through a devastating divorce a few years ago that lead to the desire to heal emotionally. Inspired by the book Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert, I pushed fear to the side and I did something similar to what she did. I sold my house, I quit my job, and I decided to go to Spain as a student in the fall of 2007. A much needed and well-deserved break was in order and I am very fortunate and grateful to have had this opportunity.

My life has been one continuous wave of change since then. Upon my return, I did not have a job and I substituted for a couple of years to make ends meet. Also, I decided to go back to school to get a Master’s in linguistics and a T.E.S.O.L. (Teaching English to Students of Other Languages) certificate because I had loved Spain so much that I wanted to go back and teach adults English. This plan didn’t come through as I had a change of heart when I finished school and decided to stay in L.A.. About a year and a half after completing school, I got the opportunity to teach ESL classes to adults in Northern California with a non-profit organization. A little afraid of this move, I pushed fear to the side again and I would be there 7 months. After this, I moved on to high school! It’s been interesting to say the least, but I am grateful to have had this opportunity. I don’t regret a single thing that I have done in my life and I would do it all over again. To say that I have learned a lot from my experiences is an understatement.

In the memoir, I write about these changes and many other events that have transformed me as a person.  I’m currently writing a book proposal for a chance to win a $10,000 advance and to have my book published with Hay House Publishing.

This is the premise of the book:

Our life purpose is to develop our spiritual selves, which entails being happy and peaceful. The purpose of this book is to tell my story: a story that begins with a divorce and goes from emotional healing to spiritual healing. As a result, an imminent spiritual awakening and spiritual transformation was in order, and I began to create my life as I envisioned and desired it  with every day miracles.

The memoir has ten chapters and these are  the titles of the chapters:

Chapter 1: In the beginning…

“A lady’s imagination is very rapid; it jumps from admiration to love, from love to matrimony in a moment.” ~Jane Austen

Chapter 2: Emotional Detachment

“Those who fail to learn from history are doomed to repeat it.” ~Winston Churchill

Chapter 3: On my own again… The Separation

“When it is dark enough, you can see the stars.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Chapter 4: Nurturing my Spirit ~ A Well Deserved Break

“Fear doesn’t exist anywhere except in the mind.” ~Dale Carnegie

Chapter 5: More Changes: Going Back to School – August 2009

“We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the life that is waiting for us.” ~ Joseph Campbell

Chapter 6: Back home and the ‘Bumps’ in the Road

“My imperfections and failures are as much a blessing from God as my successes and my talents, and I lay them both at His feet.” ~ Gandhi

Chapter 7:  A Happy Heart of My Own

“Happiness resides not in possessions, and not in gold, happiness dwells in the soul.” ~ Democritus

Chapter 8: A Semester with Adults with Sprinkles of Kindness and Compassion

“Our main goal is to help others. If you cannot help them, then at least resist from hurting them.” ~Dalai Lama

Chapter 9: And a Dash of Gratitude and Patience – The High School Year

“Never be in a hurry; do everything quietly and in a calm spirit. Do not lose your inner peace for anything whatsoever, even if your whole world seems upset.” ~ St. Francis

Chapter 10: Coming Into my Own

“Our Creator would never have made such lovely days, and have given us the deep hearts to enjoy them, above and beyond all thought, unless we were meant to be immortal.”

~Nathaniel Hawthorne

Have you ever thought about writing a book?  What is your book about? What are your ideas? Everyone has a story. What is yours?